THE EMOTIONAL STAGES OF DIVORCE

The Stages of the Divorce Process

The stages of the divorce process are often compared to Dr. Elizabeth Kübler-Ross’ stages of death and dying.  However, Dr. Kübler-Ross made it clear that not all of the stages occur in every situation.  Also, the stages do not always appear in the same order, and some reappear.  Here they are as adapted to the divorce process:

Denial: It’s not happening to me!  (It’s a just a river in Egypt!)

Anger: OK, it’s happening to me, and I’m really pissed off about it!  I mean really angry!!!

Bargaining: Maybe it doesn’t have to happen to me!  Perhaps I can talk my way out of it!

Depression: It really did happen to me and I can’t do a damn thing about it!  I really feel terrible!

Acceptance: It did happen to me, but I have to get on with my life!  I think I can do it!  I’ll stay in touch with my sources of strength!